Hot and Cold

That title can describe me on writing this blog in 2018.  I have been totally cold and this is my first Thinking on Thursday$ with Teresa in 2018.  It has been busy at work.  I love to write so why have I been such hot and cold since 2018 began?   I have no answer and I have promised myself that I’ll get back in the swing of writing this each Thursday.

This title came to me today while I was driving away from a funeral and thinking about the weather.  Our weather has been hot and cold.  How is it possible to be 70 one day and wake up to 21 degree weather the next morning?  I know that’s a rhetorical question and I also know the answer—just makes me wonder.

Emotions can be hot and cold.  At the funeral today I observed tears one moment and laughter the next.  I compare that to hot and cold. 

In the grand scheme of things, isn’t it about balance and being able to be flexible and flow like the jet stream or the memories of a dear one that hold tears and laughter? 

Enjoy the sunshine today and tomorrow and get out the heavy coat this weekend.  

#hotandcold    #wfacf   940-766-0829    


Last week while involved in a group activity we were talking about change.  One group member added this pearl of wisdom to the group think:  “Most people don’t like the word change or the thought of going through a change.  When talking about change now I use the word improve.”

I love that.  A colleague is seeking a new career opportunity and in visiting with her, I heard the word change many times.  I used the newly learned concept of substituting the word improve for the word change.  It was amazing how the mood of the conversation shifted from one of dread to one that for her had a glimpse of hope when I said, “This improvement in your life will….” 

It’s not time for me to write down those 2018 resolutions.  I want to get through Christmas first.  I do write my goals each year and this year if I see the word change in any of them, I’m diverting to the newfound word “improve.”

#wfacf  #merrychristmas  #happynewyear #notchangebutimprove

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Songs of the Season

Yesterday was a day of singing for 10 year old grandson.  His grade school choir had four concerts during the day and his city-wide honor choir had a concert in the evening. 

I attended two of the concerts during the day—one at an assisted living center and the other at the Teachers’ Credit Union.  The choir director gave so many children a chance to be in the spotlight.  Each number was introduced by at least three children.  One gave the name and history; one gave the composer; and one gave an interesting fact.  At the credit union, there was a dedication made and grandson got to deliver the surprise.  The choir director’s sister worked at the credit union and the concert was dedicated to her.

It was most joyful watching these grade school children as they filled the venues with heavenly voices—so pure and sweet.  Some of the singers added an extra flair of tapping feet, swaying bodies, bobbing heads, or smiles almost bigger than their faces.

It am glad I made time and was able job-wise to go to the daytime concerts.

At the evening concert, the venue was packed!  This program was filled with singing and some piano solos.  One happy song that had the audience moving included hand jive motions.  I was doing my own hand jives and grandson saw me and had a look of surprise that Grammy would know about this.  It was a day of singing and I’m glad my grandson can express himself through song.

Whatever songs of the season are in your heart during Christmas and New Year celebrations, I hope it fills you with joy and smiles.  If you remember the hand jive and can fit the motions to one of your songs, I bet you’ll have fun.

#wfacf  #merrychristmas  #happynewyear

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Ten Ways to Celebrate and Say “Merry Christmas”

Would you please take a look at this top 10 list of suggestions and perhaps one or two of them will speak to you as the holiday season goes into overdrive:

  1. Clean out those drawers, closets, storage units and DONATE now to any of the thrift stores in our area, i.e. Burkburnett Boys and Girls Club, First Step, Faith Mission/Refuge, to name a few.
  1. Help your children clean out their toys. Have them pick good used toys and take them with you when the donation is made to the church nursery, a resale shop, a woman’s shelter, a homeless shelter.  Purchase new toys and take your children with you when you deliver them.
  1. Make your gifts to charitable causes in honor of those on your gift giving list. The charities/nonprofits send you an acknowledgement and also your gift honorees will receive cards telling of your lovely holiday remembrance.
  1. If there’s not much money for gifts this year, how about looking in your cupboards and having kids or grandkids help you take canned goods to your church food pantry or to Wichita Falls Area Food Bank, Grace Ministries, or Interfaith?
  1. Have your kids and/or grandkids go with you to buy big bags of dog food and cat food and then head over to an animal shelter and make the donation.
  1. Take some time to contemplate what really matters in this life—things vs. people. A heartfelt note and a visit to a widow, widower, or shut-in is far more precious than a material item.
  1. Seek out a single parent, a neighbor without close family, a military person and “adopt” them for not only the holiday, but for many holidays.
  1. Spoil the children still at home, in college, and of course, the grandchildren. But, help them learn too.  Instead of filling those stockings, use the amount you usually spend on all the items in the stockings and replace it with a card that tells them what donation you made in their name and for what purpose.  It gives a different feel to the whole evening/morning when their honor is revealed and you talk about blessing an organization that gives tirelessly year in and year out.
  1. There are “Angel Trees” in the vast majority of communities. Take those angels off that tree and become an angel to a child you’ll never know.  Teenage angels are usually the last to go—please consider taking those first.
  1. Don’t forget that Times Charities begins each Thanksgiving and runs through Christmas. This is a charitable endeavor championed by the Times Record News and serves unmet needs through the year for Faith Mission/Refuge, Interfaith, Grace Ministries and Salvation Army.  The Times Charities fund resides at the Wichita Falls Area Community Foundation and you can give all year long. 

This year when asked “What do you want for Christmas” a teaching, touching reply could be, “Please donate to one of my favorite charities.”

Earnest Hearts

I have two stories to share about what I’m calling “earnest hearts.”  I heard and/or saw these two stories in the last 24 hours.

Story One

I was making my last minute Halloween candy purchase.  On the aisle next to me I heard…

Voice 1:  My grandma has the kids today. My little girl can’t go back to pre-K until I have

               a doctor’s order stating a medical condition causes her accidents.  

Voice 2:  Well, just get her to the doctor and get the order written.

Voice 1:  How do I get off work to do that and I have to wait until payday.

Voice 2:  Doesn’t their dad help?

Voice 1:  No—just grandma.

Voice 2:  Go to the Community Healthcare Center.  They have a sliding fee scale and a

     pharmacy if your little girl needs medicine. 

Story Two 

I had a 7 a.m. meeting downtown this morning.  I arrived 20 minutes ahead of the building’s doors being unlocked.  I drove around listening to music while I waited.  As I passed a corner streetlight, I saw a mom in a fast food uniform pushing two small children in a plastic wagon.  Both of the babies had to be under 3 years old.  I drove a couple of blocks and then decided I would turn around and give them a ride.  After rounding the corner, I saw her taking the two children into the daycare center.  I bet after she came out of the daycare center she was walking to her job.

Two women with children– both I bet have earnest hearts.  Hearts for their children and hearts that know work is needed to be able to provide.  How can I help?  I can donate to Community Healthcare Center and Child Care, Inc. so moms and dads who get up each day and get to work either by feet, bicycle, or car can have a safe place to take their children for daycare and a sliding fee scale clinic when that is needed for their babies.  One can’t possibly know the stories of each child or parent.  One can know that it takes earnest hearts to help make children’s lives better…and sometimes that means making the parents’ lives better.   

 #earnestheartsinwichitafalls    #wfacf   940-766-0829    

Dogs, Dolphins, and Differences

On a recent beach vacation, the opportunity presented itself to go on a dolphin cruise.  I’m glad I was part of the trio of friends who embarked on this adventure.

As we got onboard, our captain asked what we wanted the 4 hours to be—snorkel, dolphins, shells, or swimming?  We picked dolphins and shells.  As we sped away from land, the search for dolphins was first on the list.  There was the occasional sea turtle and some fish in that turquoise see-through water. 

When we happened on a fisherman with two dogs in his boat, it was apparent something was in the water because spotted dog would not stop jumping around and barking over the edge of the boat.  Our boat stopped and we watched as the dolphin would jump up to the side of the fisherman’s boat.  After about three jumps up, the dolphin stayed up, the dog came to the boat’s edge and licked the dolphin on his spout/nose or whatever that pointed part of the dolphin is called.  The dolphin swam quickly around the fisherman’s boat and came back up to visit his new friend.  The dog again licked the dolphin.  Dolphin had some happy moves as he swam fast and came a bit closer to our boat. Just as quick as he said hi to us, he was back over to see the dog.

Dogs and dolphins sure look different.  Dogs and dolphins have very different living arrangements.  Dogs and dolphins probably have very different food sources.  With all those differences, the world stood still long enough for our trio to watch the dog and the dolphin look at one another, have some fun, and even give a warm hello. 

With all the differences in the world today among people of all walks, maybe we could learn something from the dog and the dolphin and perhaps learn from our differences.  

#wedidfindshells                 #taketimetolearn             #wfacf 940-766-0829

Being Outdoors


Growing up in the country with a houseful of siblings and lots of cousins on both sides of the family was fun.  God only knows how we escaped major bodily injuries when I think back on all the antics, e.g. walking across the log that had fallen over the rising creek, tearing up the beaver dams, swimming in the creek after having dropped from the grapevine, jumping from the hay loft onto the barn floor, the list goes on!

What made me think of this today?  I went by a school during lunch time and there weren’t children out playing.  It’s 80 degrees, sun is shining brightly—where were the children?  Was it too early, too late, too muddy (it’s been raining)? 

What I know is that kids and adults need outdoors in large doses.  I believe that when there is rain and mud then it’s a great time for mud pies.  I recently bought granddaughter sidewalk paints—were those for her or me?    Colored toothpicks were always on the shelf at my house—everyone needs to have toothpick races on a rainy day.  When there is sand or water, my toes need to be in the sand and the water beckons every minute I’m around it.

I hope recess is still a great part of school, that outdoor play helps make up each child’s life, and adults never lose their kid part that needs outdoors.

#outdoors    #wfacf  940-766-0829

Hearts and HOPE


I saw a sign once that read, “When you become a mother, your heart moves outside your body and you are never the same.”  I am writing this from a mother’s perspective and want to be sensitive to all the fathers out there.  I can’t write this from a father’s perspective but I’d imagine there are a great many similarities.  I know that my heart lives with my three children, the spouses who helped bring my three grandchildren’s hearts to life, and the “growing too fast” grandchildren.

I am friends with several mothers who have lost children way too soon in their children’s young lives.  My heart hurts for these mothers each year when a birthday or other special days come around bringing with those days a flood of feelings, perhaps a bit more healing, and a lot of memories. 

I do not know the mother of #24Strong Robert Grays.  I cannot begin to feel what she is feeling right now upon losing her son at age 19 because of an injury that occurred during a college football game last Saturday 9/16/17.

I only know what this mother feels for Robert’s mother and all the mothers who have lost children.  I feel sad, sympathetic, empathic, loving, and hopeful.  My heart is heavy for Robert’s entire family.  My heart is sad for the University that I love.  My heart is sympathetic and empathetic to Robert’s fellow football team, classmates, professors, administrators who have the charge to carry on and be hopeful for better days to come—never forgetting Robert—but being better for having known this young man and all he represented. 

Each day of any of our lives is truly a gift. Love every day.  Hug your babies, no matter their ages.  Hug your babies’ babies.  When given the gift of life, cherish all the moments and fill each day with hope for tomorrow.

#24Strong  #MSUtexas   #mothershearts

Stronger Now Because of You


Last Thursday, September 7, 2017, the second annual Texoma Gives was held to benefit 200 nonprofits in 11 counties in Northern Texas and Southern Oklahoma.  The results were outstanding.  While the world watched Harvey’s devastation, the wildfires raging in the northwest, and Irma approaching the Eastern United States, one could hardly think of anything else.  However, donors knew the value nonprofits’ have in their communities and turned out in large numbers to donate.

Here are the numbers:  $868,483 in total donations and cash prizes to nonprofits; 4,362 donations made; all 200 of the participating nonprofits received donations; 91% of the donations were made online; donations came from 39 states and from 11 countries.  Thank you for believing in nonprofits.

It is in times of disaster and great need that nonprofits’ value to a community can be clearly demonstrated and observed by many.  Strong nonprofits make communities stronger and a better place in which to live and work.  In my years of recruiting professionals, I always talked about nonprofits.  For children there are camps led by nonprofits and activities such as Boy Scouts, Campfire, Girl Scouts, Boys and Girls Clubs, Youth Symphony, Ballet, Community Theatre.  The social amenities brought to a community by nonprofits are many–ballet, arts organizations, theatre, symphony.  Add to all those the  places such as a nature center, animal rescue, environment, food pantries, senior centers, counseling centers, the list goes on and on.  There is great economic impact in the collection of nonprofits in any given area. 

Texoma Gives 2018 hopes to be even bigger. I sure hope that on September 6, 2018, where ever you are that you’ll log on to and donate to a favorite nonprofit participating in 2018 Texoma Gives Day.  Questions about Wichita Falls Area Community Foundation, Burkburnett Legacy Foundation, Texoma Gives? 940-766-0829  #wfacf #texomagives

TG = Thanking God OR Total Gratitude OR Thousands of Givers OR Texoma Gives

                                                      OR  All of the Above


TODAY is the day!  It’s here!  Texoma Gives 2017.  A 16 hour day of on-line giving for 200 nonprofits registered to participate. awaits your click of the keyboard to go online and donate!

Goals for Texoma Gives 2017 are as follows:

200 nonprofits participating      check

$1,000,000 raised in 16 hours  HOPE we’re saying check at 10:15pm on 9/7/17

Donations from all 50 states      FINGERS CROSSED that we say check

2016 results looked like this:

146 nonprofits participated

$750,000 raised in 16 hours

Donations from 38 states

We can do this together, Texoma!  Thanking God with Total Gratitude for having Thousands of Givers making nonprofits stronger on Texoma Gives Day 9/7/17.


#texomagives    #wfacf   940-766-0829